This Valentines Day Ryan and I re-created our first Valentines Day from many years ago and it was wonderful. We wandered around a mall together, established what kind of refrigerator we would like to own in the future and went to dinner at Moxies. We had such a lovely time laughing and talking together while eating spicy food and enjoying a few drinks. I valued this time with him much more than the flowers and chocolate he got me.
Yes flowers are a nice gesture for your partner, but walking hand in hand feels more loving. Chocolate is delicious, but a sweet kiss lasts longer. It is always nice to receive a gift, but time is worth a lot more. Making sure you have time for your partner is much more important than giving gifts. Even just sitting on the couch together watching a show is time spent together, and that time is going to stay in your mind and heart.
Being able to be emotionally available to your partner, present in your conversations and engaged in your relationship is key to being happy together. Flowers will wilt and be thrown away, but memories last in a way a petal never can. Being intellectually engaged by your partner can help you grow and adapt your own mindset.
What I am ultimately saying here is that time spent together is always worth more than a romantic gift.I am not saying you should never grab your partner a nice present, in fact little gifts can be the most considerate. I remember having a bad day where I was groggy and disinterested in everything around me and Ryan came home with my favourite coffee. It wasn’t a big gift, it wasn’t something intricate or romantic, but it was considerate and kind. It felt to me that he had picked up on my mood in our limited texting that day and knew that a little motion would help make me happy. I remember that little gift better than every time he’s brought me flowers or chocolate.
As well as I remember that coffee, I remember us cooking together better. I remember us going for afternoon walks and playing around with a football more than gifts. I can clearly see us dancing at a friends wedding and wandering through shops downtown. I truly believe time spent together is the best gift he can give me.