Hello dear, firstly, thank you for clicking on something called “Quarter Life Crisis”, secondly, I can’t believe I’m having one.
We used to scoff at the idea of a quarter life crisis but with increasing life spans and stresses in daily life, they are becoming very common. Mine started when I left my fiancé, or perhaps a little before. Since then it has been a series of what feels like meltdowns and incredible highs.
There is a definitely a feeling of being lost, a lack of purpose and no path in my life. I have a career, a home, short term goals and dreams an aspirations, but they don’t seem to be satisfying my life, so changes have been happening quickly.
We are going to gloss over the romantic relationship aspect because I believe it is a little too personal to share here, but it isn’t the only relationship in my life that ended. I’ve been cleaning out my life and that includes people. Getting rid of a lot of people who felt like a constant drain on my mental health has been a huge relief, but also quite sad. Grieving the end of so many relationships has been difficult but ultimately the best decision I think I could have made.
Regardless of the removal of so much stress, there is a loneliness to having a large amount of people removed from my life. After so many years of being in stable relationships it’s hard to be alone again. But that difficulty also comes with freedoms and opportunities.
Removing items from my life has also been a way of cleaning out my life. Clothes that never fit well have been given away, jewelry that I’ve outgrown has been gifted to the next generation, books I’ll never read again now sit on the shelves above children’s beds. It feels easier to breath without all this stuff in my way.
Investing in myself has been a welcome return in my life. Buying good quality items, like wool coats and proper winter boots has been contributing to a high quality of life. While they cost more upfront, I recognize that I won’t have to replace them in the next five years and that they are warmer and more comfortable.
I did buy one thing that I can’t argue wasn’t essential to a better quality of life, but does make me very happy and that is a new (used) car. I drove my old Santa Fe for many years and her problems were just getting worse. So I looked at it and decided that instead of sinking money into it to keep it on the road for another couple years, it was time to buy a newer vehicle. Now I could have purchased a more reasonable car, but hey, sometimes you have to get what you want over what is cheapest. I bought a 2014 Charger SXT AWD. For those who don’t know what the car is, it’s a fun sport car that isn’t completely unreadable to drive in the winter.
I think I’m reaching a point in my life where quality and enjoyment are taking a priority over “in the moment” feelings. Relationships that cause me stress and strain aren’t increasing my quality of life, clutter stresses me out and a fun vehicle turns a chore into a fun time every day. It may have been a difficult couple of months but I believe my choices will lead me to a happier life.