Why A Date Is More Important Than A Gift

This Valentines Day Ryan and I re-created our first Valentines Day from many years ago and it was wonderful. We wandered around a mall together, established what kind of refrigerator we would like to own in the future and went to dinner at Moxies. We had such a lovely time laughing and talking together while eating spicy food and enjoying a few drinks. I valued this time with him much more than the flowers and chocolate he got me.

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Yes flowers are a nice gesture for your partner, but walking hand in hand feels more loving. Chocolate is delicious, but a sweet kiss lasts longer. It is always nice to receive a gift, but time is worth a lot more. Making sure you have time for your partner is much more important than giving gifts. Even just sitting on the couch together watching a show is time spent together, and that time is going to stay in your mind and heart.

Being able to be emotionally available to your partner, present in your conversations and engaged in your relationship is key to being happy together. Flowers will wilt and be thrown away, but memories last in a way a petal never can. Being intellectually engaged by your partner can help you grow and adapt your own mindset.

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What I am ultimately saying here is that time spent together is always worth more than a romantic gift.I am not saying you should never grab your partner a nice present, in fact little gifts can be the most considerate. I remember having a bad day where I was groggy and disinterested in everything around me and Ryan came home with my favourite coffee. It wasn’t a big gift, it wasn’t something intricate or romantic, but it was considerate and kind. It felt to me that he had picked up on my mood in our limited texting that day and knew that a little motion would help make me happy. I remember that little gift better than every time he’s brought me flowers or chocolate.

As well as I remember that coffee, I remember us cooking together better. I remember us going for afternoon walks and playing around with a football more than gifts. I can clearly see us dancing at a friends wedding and wandering through shops downtown. I truly believe time spent together is the best gift he can give me.

How To Pick The Perfect Valentine Gift

A gift that is personal, something your partner needs or really wants is a much more intimate gift, even though it doesn’t include the commercially sold Valentines Gifts.

How To Pick The Perfect Gift

Chocolate and flowers are kind gifts, but they aren’t very personal. In order to buy the perfect gift you have to think of something your partner needs. For example, my man bought me the perfect soap dish as a small gift when I came home from being out of town for a while. He knew I was upset by the stickiness bars of soap were leaving on my sink and knew it was something I needed. Though it was not a “romantic” gift, it was one I really appreciated.

Think of something your partner needs and pair it with flowers that match the gift to give your thoughtful gift a romantic vibe.

Say your girlfriend has been saying she needs a new phone case, get her a charging case with flowers that match its colour. Instead of a useless trinket or chocolate, you’ve given her something she will use every day and think of you when she looks at it.

If your man has been saying he really needs to clean his truck, work together with his friends to organize time where you can take it to get professionally cleaned, or scrub it yourself. This may take a little organizing, but he is sure to appreciate a detailed interior and sparkling clean tires.

The idea of everything needed to be covered in roses and hearts is not the most practical or thoughtful. A gift that is personal, something your partner needs or really wants is a much more intimate gift, even though it doesn’t include the commercially sold Valentines Gifts.

Let me know down below the best gift you’ve ever given or received for Valentines Day.